When we are not okay with our kids growing up without maths, Why are we okay with them growing up without knowing the names of Allah?

As knowing Math is the fundamental of many career paths, the fundamental of Emaan is knowing the names & attributes of Allah. Knowing the Rabb, will only help your kids grow closer to him and at the same time build better characteristics.

You helped your kid learn math, similarly, Gift your kids this basic fundamental, which will help them succeed in this life and hereafter too.

Is your kid’s Emaan weak right now? They are not motivated or eager to offer salah? And they only do so to please the parents? The reason for this is they are distant from Allah and his numerous attributes.

They have to know Allah, to love Allah. They need to know Allah, to worship Allah. They need to know Allah, to make dua to Allah.

Give them the knowledge of their Rabb, to help them be self-motivated towards Salah and every other good deed.

Through our video series, we will make the kids understand the depth of Allah’s names, help them see the attributes in the world around them and themselves.

Researchers at Oxford university  have discovered one single factor that can double the chance of your children developing anxiety and depression

It is bad sibling relationships 

The researchers suggested that 13.0% of depression and 19.3% of self-harm could be explained by being the victim of sibling bullying

Sibling bullying on an average was found to have started at the age of 8

Words hurt a lot more

People might often ignore the name calling, the frequent mocking, or treating other like a nuisance, thinking its “NORMAL” “They don’t mean it”

But these are exactly what researchers found to be the most common type of bullying and main causes of deep negative impact on the children, who had internalised the pain of being constantly abused by their siblings

How many scars are left in the hearts of your children by the words they hear from their sibling?

Is it worse hearing such words of disrespect, mocking from a stranger or from a sibling?

I am sure, you yourself may have experienced this at times, seemingly minor statement or joke from someone else that stabbed your heart, or damaged your self esteem.

Imaging living everyday like this?

Things to check in your children for growing negative impacts of bullying:

• Is there a shift in behavior?
• Is the child feeling unmotivated, tired?
• Are they more angry then before? More agitated?
• Confidence and self esteem not developing
• Is the fighting increasing and becoming more vicious?
• Grades falling, getting more anxious?
• Having trouble making friends? Feeling more shy than usual?

Our relationship with our siblings is the longest relationship and insha’Allah can be the strongest relationship we have in our life

Islam puts great importance in this relationship, puting it right after our parents

It is critical to help your children develop a healthy and strong relationship with each other. Ofcourse much of how they are going to be with each other depends on your parenting skills.

However there are a few things children can be and should be taught

• Empathy for each other
• Conflict resolution , so they can resolve their conflicts in a healthy manner
• Value of a sibling in their life
• Status and reward of maintaining this relationship
• Importance of seeking peace in a family even if it means compromising
• Islamic virtues of forgiveness, mercy and generosity towards your siblings
• Steps from sunnah to increase love in their hearts for each other
• Role models from the greatest stories of companions and the prophets

These are just some of the core values that your children will be learning in the upcoming class Unbreakable.

This is a powerful, much needed class for children which is much needed in today’s times to give children the tools and knowledge to overcome the challenges they are facing

This is the kind of classes and islamic education our children need today, giving them practical advice from the Quran and sunnah to help them be best friends for life

If you are interested, here is the link for more information on this online class

Anuzka is a special child mashaAllah and it was my honor to teach her. It was a real pleasure for me to get to know her mom as well. She was a non-muslim but registered her daughter to the Tafsir course for her daughter to better understand her religion 🙂 and supported her completely in every way during the course.

Anuzka’s story after taking humble your heart tafsir course

Jasim Shah Aeroplan Dawah!

Jasim – “Like the aeroplanes go high, learning the hadith raises you. “

Sameeha’s Cup Cakes and Card Dawah

Aisha, Samarah, Suleiman’s – Lollipops with hadiths, Brochures and bookmarks stall at a garage sale 🙂

Khadija’s Balloon’s with flyers Dawah

Moneerah’s Treat Bags With Muslim Inventions Dawah

Nawal, 12, Stared an Islamic Blog as her dawah project…

Please visit the blog, and leave some encouraging comments for her.

I am sure it would mean A LOT to her and be a great motivator for her to keep going.
Please do share the blog with your children too and they may love to learn from someone their age 🙂
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Iman’s Dawah Video

Ammar and Omar’s Dawah Project

And Much More Coming From The Students Of Company Of RasulAllah(saws) Course and Future Leaders Of The Ummah 

This is something that I wrote up, while I was working on the videos for the name of Allah – Al Baseer, All Seeing and its implications for us humans. Ofcourse most of the time we remind children that Allah is watching and that is an important reminder!
But is that it..? So have a read below…(ofcourse, how I teach this to kids in a video is much more fun and powerful than the read below 🙂

Why does Allah see us all the time?
To keep a check on us? Is it surveillance
To know or record what we are doing?
Could angels do that?

Infact angels do actually record everything
So why does he watch us, hear us all the time?
Even when we are sleeping, he is still watching!
Me and you, who are not even as big as an ant compared to Allah, a comparison that is impossible

Then why does he watch you all the time, hear every sound…every heartbeat, every thought

The answer should bring tears to our eyes…
The answer should should truly melt our hearts…

You have a Lord who cares so much about you
This is from his mercy
Not only does he watch over you all the time, he is always there to hear you.

He also tell us that, so many times in the Quran
Allah tells us. He is watching over you. He is hearing you.
All those times you felt lonely, you wished someone would just hear you.
All those times you felt weak and alone
He was always there and He will always be.
You were never alone, and you never will be.

He was still there watching you, hearing you, even when you forgot……
He is never tired of listening to you, even though if we get tired of talking to him.

“He is with you wherever you are.” Surah Hadid

No matter how much a mother loves a child, even she gets bored of listening to them, even she cant watch her child all the time

But Allah never gets tired of listening to you or watching you

What incredible peace does it bring to your heart, knowing that when you leave your loved ones Allah , who loves them far more than you, is watching them.

There are people in this world, who do worship gods who they don’t believe cannot see them all the time or hear them all the time

Imagine what they are missing, not knowing that actually that even them, even them Allah is watching all the time.

Imagine how hard that life is, how alone they can be, not knowing he is always hearing them

Its not that a muslim never feels alone or isolated, but imagine how much more alone these people must be.

and how alone are we when we forget that Allah is Al Baseer and Allah is As Samiy, All hearing, All seeing.

Alhamdulillah that Allah is all seeing, all hearing, all knowing
And Alhamdulillah that He told us about these attributes of his and reminded us of this so many times in the Quran.

“Indeed, You are of us ever Seeing.” 20:35

To end with, this is ofcourse not the ONLY reason Allah watches us, and thats my point, there is a great deal to learn from each of the names of Allah(swt), much of which perhaps we can never even comprehend.

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There is just one more lesson from these names but there much more depth and much more for us to gain from each of the names of Allah, knowing the ONE, we love the most, our Rabb, Allah.

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You will be left with no reason to live…..

There is only one reason for any one of us to live, ONLY one which lives forever – Allah, who is there for you forever, only one purpose for which created for.

Wake up everyday, knowing this is another day He has given you to work for him

I say this today, because recently in my job, as a crisis counselor, I took a call from someone who had made another human her reason to live and now after losing her reason to live, she had nothing left to live for. The pain she was going through cannot be put into words. She had no reason to live, so she kept saying whats the point, even if this pain ends today, whats the point, I am just filling time on earth.

In this videos I discuss self esteem and its relationship with emaan.
The pillar of self esteem
and share many of my personal experiences and my journey to building Emaan Power

InshaAllah like many many others, you will find this webinar recording. extremely beneficial for yourself 🙂
~ Ariba Farheen

Webinar recording by Ariba Farheen

 
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Many years ago, children learned much of their morals,not just in books, or from parents, but from watching the entire society. Watching neighbors, friends, uncles and aunties, but today especially for children growing up in west that mode of education, practical demonstrations of what the books say, is very little to nil.

The prior generations were learning all kinds social skills living in closely knit societies. Today, it can take us weeks to even contact our cousins and grandparents.

Thinking back to my own childhood, I wonder how many facts of life, emotional cues, morals, and much more I learned by just watching, my family members engage in all kinds of disputes, hardships, and what not…

I think just watching my aunt bargain was quite something to learn from!

Yes, today a world of knowledge is open to us, we can insert all this knowledge in the children’s head and hope they will be even better than us. But is that enough????

Surely the next generation has access to more information and knowledge than any before, but I wonder if they will ever have in themselves or even have access to half the wisdom that the prior generations had.

Truth is that today even adults cannot digest knowledge they are learning. That’s why all around us we see coaching of this or that. What is coaching? A coach is really taking the theoretical knowledge and teaching you slowly, step by step, how to apply it in your life.

Today there are thousands of parents constantly researching , attending parenting skills classes.

What about the children though? Doesn’t their need to be a greater effort in teaching children how to be good daughters and sons?

How can we just tell them a hadith, or ayah, or tell the to obey us and then expect them to know what exactly they are suppose to do and do it!

It’s not fair

Yesterday, I am sure it was enough to just tell them and they would follow, because actually they were not just following the words, they were following the examples they had seen all around them.

Today they hear the words, and see their friends curse their mothers, see every tv show presenting mother as critical figure, a burden, someone you just want to get away from, someone who wants to control you. They see their friends using similar attitude towards parents.

As one sister recently pointed out to me, that every disney movie, either shows that the mother is dead, or needs to be saved, and so on…

Who is talking about the importance of mother? Who is showing them how to honor her?

Ofcourse your own example helps immensely. But its far from enough.

They can easily forget it as, well you are another generation.
“You are not dealing with same things I am” etc

I am reminded of a video I made a while back called “Why didn’t Allah(swt) email Quran?” In that we talked about the fact that just knowing the Quran was never enough for us, thats why Allah(swt) gave us his message and the messenger, who demonstrate to us, showed us, how to apply the message. Just as the quran, that example also has been been passing down for centuries, within ourselves, our manners, our behaviours, and even some of our traditions. Unfortunately though it is disappearing slowly ….

My point is, it is not enough to just tell the children to obey parents, give them hadith and Quran and expect that they will. It has to be broken down, step by step, issue by issue for them. What does it actually mean to honor your mother? Why can’t I argue my point of view with full force? Whats wrong with saying its unfair all the time? Aren’t I suppose to fight for whats fair? So why can’t I fight with my parents? Respect is earned, my parents haven’t earned my respect. Why can’t I talk back to my mother, all my friends do? Infact I am much better in the way I talk to you. Why do I have to respect you? I don’t owe you anything, you had a child, you have to raise me. What’s me doing a chore got to do with honoring you?

They know Islam demands honor to the mother, they know they owe you, but hardly any of the children have ever really reflected on how much honor and why you deserve it. They haven’t even reflected on what you have done for them. So then they look at your faults and assume, “you are not a good parent, you don’t deserve my good treatment, we are even now.” This is a clear sign, that the child never truly understood the enormous sacrifices of the mother, and why Islam teaches us that we can never pay her back? Why are her actions, so much higher then yours? Whats the difference in our intentions?

Here are some more examples demonstrating the confusion of their thought process due to lack of understanding

Probably of all the relationships, a person has, the one with the mother, is the one, which is farthest from the status it has & the status it is given, it is the one that is most taken for granted.

But once again, I find it hard to blame the children, and I am not even blaming the parents. I blame myself as a teacher, we the teachers need to do a better job in educating children.

Sure, we cannot change the entire society and we also cannot just give up. So what do we do? We need to do for children, what adults have already figured out for themselves, we need to coach them to apply the knowledge.

Not just tell them or give them hadith. But go deeper into their physcology, go deeper into their everyday issues, find out what is stopping them, what are the excuses they are using, how exactly is shaitan trapping them, and solve the problem there.

We need to also COACH them to be better sons and daughters.

Don’t just tell them, but be creative about how to tell them

Don’t just show them the hadith, but understand it with depth yourself first and then help them understand it with the same depth.

Stop insulting the intellect of children by just telling the or commanding them, help them understand.

Not being able to simply things to help them understand is nothing but a shortcoming in our intellect not theirs. To be able to simplify things for children we need to go to an even deeper depth and understand the hadith’s and ayahs, even better, than we would for adults. Go down below all of the complexity of the statement and find the simplicity. Then teach it to the children.

Unfortunately what we find is quite the opposite, we often think, oh children we can just teach them basics and they are not capable of understanding any more than that. NO! They are, shortcoming is of our intellect not theirs.

Its totally doable, and InshaAllah we will do it.

And once we do raise our own standards, we will see the children respond and see a generation of children bringing back the highest of examples of honoring their mothers. And inshaAllah they will then become inspiration for others around them.

My Guide to My Mother’s Heart video program  is my first step in going deeper and coaching children, to be better sons and daughters to their parents.

Last year I completed my accreditation to be a counselor and and past few months  I have been working on this program.  I often found myself struggling with issues, to get the answers for the kids, breakdown the excuses such as the ones above. Every time I started on a video topic  I felt like I have entered a jungle and I had to clean it all up to reach the simplicity and explain to the children, address the root of the matter.

Alhamdulillah I am glad I did, as not only has it helped me bring our a better result but made me a better daughter too.

May Allah(swt) put barakah in it and inspire the children through it. Ameen.

1. Understand her

2. Know her status that Allah has given her and Why

They need to understand not only how high she is but also why they must give her that honor and respect.

3. Inspiration

4. How to?

Sitting on the bus back home from Melbourne after attending a weekend long course on, study of heaven and hell.
I have tears in my eyes, tears that I find hard to control, most likely anyone who saw me must think, poor Muslim woman.

Little do they know though, that these tears are THE most precious to me today. For so long I have wished for them to come back.

Life had taken over me, I was consumed by the peace and happiness,m that my Lord granted me, lacking severely in gratitude. Everyday I feared for my soul, feared as I could feel my heart harden,slowly slowly, one atom at a time, everyday, every hour

This weekend, away from home, I spent mostly forgetting all those everyday tasks that consumed me, and beautifully being reminded of my home , my real home, my home forever…

These tears are not of sadness. These are tears of hope. These are tears from the eyes that are although seeing a world today but it suddenly seems so small, so ordinary, so meager. Today all hardships seem small compared to the pleasure that lies ahead. Today these tears are from the eyes that seem to be looking at streets outside the window, but in reality they are seeing a dream, a vision, an image of the most glorious day of Eid in Jannah.

These are tears that desperately ask questions, Will you be pleased with me my Lord? Will I be one of those you invite on the day of Eid in Jannah?
Will I o Al Wadud, be there among them when you show your face? Will I see you ya rabbi? Will you say you are pleased with me ya Rabi? Will I get to hear your voice filled with love for me?

These tears are of a longing, longing for that day Allah swt lets me enter his Jannah. All that I will see, All those I will finally meet!!!! Oh how long do I have to wait for that day! I feel as only today I actually understand how much his dunya truly is a prison for the believer.
I feel like tht child who just couldn’t wait for the day of Eid to come, so s he could get the gift she wanted for so long. Not that she is unhappy today or complaining for today but she knows what lies ahead in that day is so much better than today. When will that day come! When will that day come!

But there is also fear in these tears , fear of losing this dream, fear being the one thrown in the fire, fear of not ever seeing you ya rab, fear of your anger ya Rab. It feels unbearable today to imagine meeting you and finding you displeased, o my constant provided, protector, healer, O my Rabb. Ya Allah the punishment of the fire doesn’t shatter my heart as much as just the the thought of being the one kept from seeing you forever.
As I go back home I fear that once again life will consume me and I will forget these dreams and once again the heart will begin to harden, forgetting the reality,getting lost in the illusion.
Ya Rabi, let me remember this pain every time I come near the sin.
Ya Allah, let me never forget the image of the day of Eid, that my teacher painted in my heart and mind.
Ya Allah let me never lose hope to be one you smile at everyday when I come to my eternal home, to see you twice everyday!
Ya Allah keep my heart close to you forever
Ya Rabi, make righteousness easy for me and sins difficult for me.
Ya Allah please never let me lose this longing to see you and fear of your displeasure, only make both stronger.
Today I understand more than ever before Jibreel alahisalaam statement when he saw Jannah,
‘No one who hears of it will fail to enter it’

and the more i come closer to home the more i fear, what he said when he came back to Jannah, this time surrounded with difficulties – ‘no one will enter it’

Ya Allah give me the strength to be patient just one hour for an eternity of happiness and peace in your company.

Sometimes teens in arrogance or ignorance feel/say to parents, “you only did all this for me because it is your job as a parent”

And YEP! they are right, it is a parents job, given to them by Allah(swt).

But when Allah(swt) gave them that job, he also gave you(the child) a job as well, to HONOR your parents, respect them, be kind to them, bend down to them out of mercy, as long they don’t ask for anything tht is not against the law of Allah(swt)

Moreover, we often mistakenly think that our kindness to our parents is because we are paying them back.

NO! We try our best in honoring our parents because Allah ordered it!

It should ONLY be for the sake of Allah(swt).

When we teach children to honor their parents for the sake of Allah then such statements or questions won’t even have a place in their minds

(Please note, this is webinar is for mothers of older children 8-15, if you have younger children this may not be for you. )